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November 11, 2012

NATURAL HEALTH: Nothing good comes of judging others harshly

Niagara Gazette — The famous author, Paulo Coelho, once wrote “We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.”

In my opinion, being judg-mental is one of the more common forms of emotional constipation. It serves little purpose to you or those you judge. Most people find themselves judging others as a way of making themselves feel superior, but sadly this is not usually the case. The reality is that those who judge most are typically insecure and are just grasping for reasons to feel better about themselves.

What makes people lack empathy and appear so cold? Besides insecurity, there are some mental disorders that may be to blame. Steve Jobs was thought to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Anyone who knew him would agree, yet he served a great purpose during his short life on earth. He lacked empathy for many and was well known for his arrogance and self-centered ways.

Those suffering from Obsessive- Compulsive Personality Disorder will find fault in almost everyone. They typically say or think that those in their surrounding are too fat or thin, they are not clean enough or that they dress or look horrible. They can criticize almost every aspect of someone.

These are just a few examples of where there is an actual disorder that explains the harshness. They know no other way and rarely will be cured of their judgmental ways. You may have a few of these people in your life and at least now you yourself might be able look at them with a bit more empathy. 

On a milder note, most of us judge all the time. We may not say anything, but we think it. We do not wish harm on anyone, but we judge them based on what we think is right or wrong. When did “we” become such experts?

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