Niagara Gazette — As I listened to her, I felt that I had “heard this before” a lifetime ago as a new Cornell graduate, beginning a career in energy management. My life, before children included corporate conferences with similar discussions teaching us that we could “have- it- all- at-the same-time- with- the -same-level—of-intensity.” (It’s amazing how my views and priorities changed after I had my first baby).
Twenty-five years later, I can’t believe the debate continues for the many “faces and hats” of womanhood. I have been the full-time working mother, the stay-at-home-mom (with a 5-year-old, a 3-year-old and newborn twins), part of the “sandwich generation,” (caring for infants, pre-schoolers and a disabled aging father-in-law who lived with us). I went back to work part-time in a different career years later. None of it was easy, and I have heard the judgment of others every step of the way.
There is no “one and only” perfect way for women to live an excellent life and care for their families. I did what was best for my family at each stage of our lives together, with the loving support of a wonderful husband. Rather than judge, perhaps, like the YWCA, we can find a way to love, help, and encourage the women around us. They would probably appreciate our compassion.Jackie Davis is an inspirational vocalist, musician and speaker with more than 20 years of television broadcast experience. You can contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.