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April 26, 2013

HAMILTON: Good fathers are the best Mothers Day gifts

Niagara Gazette — Mothers Day is only two weeks away, fellows, and I am amazed by the conversations that I hear when mothers express what they want most for actually being mothers — and it isn’t cards, flowers or dinners.

It’s no big secret, and if you tearfully watch the newsreels — like the recent one that FOX Q-13 television of Seattle Wash., aired, where yet again another forward deployed soldier, sailor, airman or Marine surprises their young child in the kid’s classroom upon their return home, then you’ll know what it is — it is being good fathers to their children.

What the heck, we even see that on the Maury Povich Show; whereas, all that the mothers say that they want is for dude to step up and take loving care of the child that he fathered. It is not easy, but it is necessary.

But you know something? Men’s bodies don’t alter, we don’t have hormones that run through our veins, that causes us to be a bit screwy in our heads, or any of the changes through which a woman goes when she is carrying a child. Because we remain relatively stable throughout the process of childbirth, we can just love the baby “just because” it is a baby. It doesn’t even necessarily have to be our own child, and we can love that child, anyway.

One example was that of my father, he married my mom when she was carrying another man’s child. Together, they had four more children, and when my mother died, my mother’s first child was 10 years old. Her natural father, whom she did not know, came to reclaim the daughter that my father had loved and raised — but my father refused to let her go: He kept the family together.

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